When it comes to growing your family through surrogacy, finding the right match between intended parents and surrogates is crucial. At Delivering Hope, we know that this partnership is about more than just medical compatibility; it’s about finding two sides that align on values, expectations, and the emotional journey of bringing a child into the world. We’re dedicated to facilitating a match that is seamless, fulfilling, and built on a foundation of trust. This blog will guide you through how we make that happen and why finding the right match is key to an incredible surrogacy experience.
The Importance of Finding the Right Match
Finding the right surrogate is not just about physical health and medical suitability; it’s about ensuring compatibility in every sense. Bringing a child into the world is a profound experience, and both intended parents and surrogates must share similar values and perspectives on important aspects of the journey. A strong match allows both sides to navigate the process confidently, knowing that they are working with someone who understands their needs, concerns, and aspirations.
Shared Values and Vision
One of the most critical aspects of finding the perfect match is identifying shared values. Both intended parents and surrogates are embarking on a deeply personal journey that involves trust, empathy, and shared responsibilities. At Delivering Hope, our primary focus is ensuring that both parties share similar perspectives on topics like medical decisions, communication preferences, and the level of involvement each expects throughout the pregnancy. Having these values aligned ensures a harmonious experience from start to finish.
For intended parents, the journey is emotional—it’s about entrusting another person with the most important role: carrying their child. The surrogate, meanwhile, is making an incredibly generous decision to support a family in this way. Understanding each other’s motivations and ensuring these align helps build a bond that goes beyond legal contracts—it’s a connection rooted in mutual respect and understanding.
Personalized Matching Process
Delivering Hope takes a personalized approach to the matching process. Every intended parent and surrogate is unique, and we recognize the importance of understanding each person’s story. Our matching process is designed to be thorough, empathetic, and thoughtful, ensuring that every match is made with care and consideration.
We start by getting to know each individual—what they value, what their goals are, and what kind of relationship they envision during and after the pregnancy. Intended parents often have specific ideas about the kind of surrogate they wish to work with, whether it’s someone who lives nearby, someone with similar family values, or someone who is willing to have an ongoing relationship post-birth. Similarly, surrogates may have their preferences, such as wanting to work with parents who are highly involved or those who prefer to maintain some distance. At Delivering Hope, our job is to ensure that these preferences are respected, and that each pairing is a positive and fulfilling match for both parties.
Delivering Hope’s Matching Process: How It Works
At Delivering Hope, we go above and beyond to connect intended parents and surrogates who are aligned on the key aspects of their surrogacy journey. Our careful screening, personalized approach, and empathetic touch ensure that the partnership is successful from the very first meeting.
1. Thorough Screening and Understanding
The first step in the matching process is understanding each participant in depth. For intended parents, it starts with an in-depth consultation where we discuss their hopes and desires for their surrogacy journey. This allows us to understand what matters most to them—whether it’s communication style, medical preferences, or specific lifestyle habits they’d like their surrogate to share. Our consultations are about building trust and giving intended parents the confidence that Delivering Hope will help them make the best decision for their family.
For surrogates, we conduct a rigorous screening process to ensure that only the most committed and capable individuals are considered. This process includes an application review, medical and psychological screenings, background checks, home visits, and interviews with spouses or partners. Surrogates who work with Delivering Hope are passionate about helping others and are motivated by a genuine desire to bring happiness to intended parents. By conducting these screenings, we ensure that all our surrogates are prepared and excited for the journey ahead, and that they are ready to match with intended parents who align with their values.
2. Personalized Matching Criteria
Once we have a thorough understanding of both the intended parents and surrogate, we use personalized matching criteria to bring both parties together. Matching is not a “one size fits all” process—it requires attention to detail and a deep understanding of each party’s preferences and expectations. Some of the matching criteria we use include:
- Communication Style: How often do intended parents want to be in contact with their surrogate? Are they looking for someone who will provide frequent updates or someone who prefers more space?
- Family Dynamics and Personality: Surrogacy is an intimate experience, and we aim to match people who are comfortable with each other’s personality and family dynamics. We believe that having good chemistry between intended parents and surrogates is essential to a positive experience.
- Medical and Ethical Preferences: We also consider preferences on medical decisions that may arise during the pregnancy, such as views on multiple embryo transfers or selective reduction. Both parties must align on these important matters.
After considering these criteria, we share profiles with both the intended parents and surrogates. If they feel there is a potential match, we send the surrogates medical records to your clinic for approval, then we arrange an initial video meeting to help everyone get acquainted. This “get-to-know-you” meeting is an important step in building trust and gauging if both sides are comfortable moving forward.
3. Establishing Trust and Building Relationships
Building a trusting relationship is key to a successful surrogacy experience. At Delivering Hope, we emphasize open communication and encourage both intended parents and surrogates to discuss any questions, concerns, or expectations they have early in the process. Trust doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s something we actively foster throughout the journey.
We encourage intended parents and surrogates to be open about their emotions, values, and visions for the surrogacy journey. By discussing expectations—such as how often they’d like to meet or communicate, what type of relationship they envision after the baby is born, and any preferences for medical decisions—we help both sides come to a clear understanding of each other’s needs.
A Journey Built on Connection
Creating Lasting Bonds
The surrogacy journey is often filled with emotions, milestones, and moments of joy. Delivering Hope aims to make this journey as positive as possible for both intended parents and surrogates by focusing on their connection. We’ve seen firsthand how a strong bond can make all the difference—it can provide comfort during difficult times, amplify the joy of milestones, and create lifelong relationships that extend beyond the surrogacy journey.
One of the most heartwarming parts of our work is seeing the unique relationships that form between surrogates and intended parents. Whether they continue to keep in touch after the birth or part ways with deep mutual respect, the bond formed during surrogacy is special. It’s built on the shared experience of bringing new life into the world, which both parties will carry with them forever.
The Role of Delivering Hope in Ongoing Support
Our role at Delivering Hope doesn’t end when a match is made. We’re here to support both intended parents and surrogates every step of the way—from initial consultation through pregnancy to post-birth support. We maintain regular communication, provide access to resources, and ensure that any questions or concerns are addressed promptly. We want both intended parents and surrogates to feel supported, heard and cared for throughout the entire process.
Our approach to ongoing support includes assistance with medical appointments, legal arrangements, and even emotional support. We work closely with both sides to ensure that the pregnancy is progressing smoothly, and that everyone is comfortable and well-prepared for the journey ahead. Our compassionate team is available whenever you need us, whether it’s to answer a simple question or to provide guidance during a challenging time.
Start Your Journey With Delivering Hope
Matching intended parents and surrogates isn’t just a logistical task—it’s about creating a connection that will bring new life into the world. At Delivering Hope, we recognize the importance of finding the perfect match, and we approach each journey with care, empathy, and the expertise needed to make it as smooth as possible. Whether you’re an intended parent hoping to grow your family, or a surrogate wanting to make a difference, Delivering Hope is here to support you every step of the way.
If you’re ready to begin your journey, we invite you to explore more about our services for Intended Parents, learn how to connect with a surrogate agency, and meet Delivering Hope. Together, we can make your dreams of creating a family a reality—one match at a time.
| How does Delivering Hope match surrogates with intended parents? | Delivering Hope matches intended parents and surrogates based on several factors, including shared values, communication preferences, medical backgrounds, and unique expectations for the journey. This process ensures that both parties are compatible and feel comfortable moving forward together. |
| What qualities does Delivering Hope consider important in finding a match? | Delivering Hope prioritizes shared values, perspectives on the surrogacy journey, and mutual understanding. We make sure that surrogates and intended parents are aligned on critical aspects such as expectations, communication styles, and emotional support. |
| How involved can intended parents be during the surrogacy process? | Intended parents are encouraged to be as involved as they feel comfortable. Delivering Hope supports intended parents throughout the entire journey, from attending medical appointments and the embryo transfer to bonding with their surrogate through open communication. |
| What support does Delivering Hope offer after the match is made? | Once a match is made, Delivering Hope offers continuous support through legal guidance, medical screenings, and regular check-ins. Our team ensures that both surrogates and intended parents feel secure, informed, and supported every step of the way. |
